Death is the most difficult fact chosen to explain to children. We all think about how to do this, some of us choose to postpone, some of us lie, and some of us choose to face the truth. Yes, we know that this is not easy for both parents and children. The best thing to do is to be honest and give an explanation to your child based on his or her age and emotional maturity.
Let's take a look at the children's perception of this situation…
Children under 2 years:
Children notice the absence of the animal, but they cannot understand death. The way they meet the situation is actually parallel to the way other members of the household meet at that moment. The child may be disturbed by feeling distress and stress in the environment. But this is not because he understands death, but only because he can feel the feelings of parents.
Children between 2-5 years:
Children notice the absence of the animal, they miss it as a playmate, but they cannot perceive it as the loss of someone they love. They may think of death as a temporary situation, the leaves die, but in spring they can re-open an approach for their animals. When they do not perceive the trauma and stress environment around them, they may show some behavioral problems, such as long-term finger sucking or underneath.
Children 5-9 years old:
At this age, children begin to perceive death as a permanent condition. Fictitious friends may emerge, your child may be playing or talking with the animal in the imagination. This may be an indication of his attempt to deny the death. If you experience such behavior, follow your child and seek help from an expert when you find that it has been going on for a long time. In addition, children may sometimes think that there is a direct relationship between what they think and what happens. For example, he may have thought of his dog dying by chance the day before his death, and when he finds out that his dog is dead the next day, he may feel guilty and think that the result is a relationship. Make sure that your child perceives this as his / her own fault and tell your child that there is no connection between his or her death.
What can you do?
- Be honest with your child and tell him the truth. Telling your child that his pet is sleeping or leaving will both make him uneasy and confusion, questioning the concept of trust. So it would be best to tell him the truth. You can explain to your child that “cotton is dead, which means we will no longer see it again. Onu Especially when your youngest child is ready to repeat himself, he can often ask you where his dying animal is. Please be patient and give him the necessary explanation.
- Take care to answer all questions, share your feelings with him and do not forget to hug him.
- Make sure your child's feelings. After this event, the child may start to think that what he loves will die one by one and begin to leave him. You can talk to him and tell him that animals and humans have different biological structures and that people often live for many years.
-You can create a corner with your child that dies at home. Here you can put his favorite things, photos, pictures of your child. It may be those who think that prolonging the sad days, not to forget the pain, on the contrary, such activity will help the child to express their feelings more easily and return to the normal process more easily.
- Do not try to make your child forget the other one by buying a new animal immediately. Give your child time to fully experience the process, and he will already share it with you when he feels ready.
- Never blame the vet or other sources.
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