Baby Development

How important is the discipline applied to the child?

How important is the discipline applied to the child?

When 2-year-old Can gets angry, he bites his parents and friends. This has already caused coldness between Can's mother and the mothers of the other children she bites. Some children are reluctant to play with Can, even in quiet times. Even Can's own parents sometimes have difficulty approaching him, fearing that he will bite.

He is a little boy who enjoys sucking and is very resistant to giving up his breast and bottle. When the resentment of being deprived of the pleasure of sucking becomes uncontrollable, the desire to bite arises in Can. Can's mouth, which was the old pleasure point, has now become a good tool for removing its vengeance.

Understanding Can's compulsion doesn't mean letting his bites go. His parents tell him that he cannot bite clearly, and if he tries to bite him, he immediately takes him out. In response, Can began to bite himself. Can's behavior shows that he understands that his parents do not approve of bites and tries to comply with their expectations, but his impulses are still stronger than his inner control.

The way to help a young child whose language skills are not sufficiently developed is to offer alternative ways to channel the urge to bite. His parents offered him one of the children's teethers and told him that he could bite it. Can also get used to gear, but it started to bite with pleasure in a week or so. This method worked because Can stopped biting himself and others.

One year later, when Can was 36 months old, it became clear that Can began to gain internal control. Looking at his newborn brother, Can, whose language skills are well developed, says: 'Mother, I may want to bite, but I can't bite, can I?' Can's desire to bite is about to reappear, but Can has gained enough internal control to keep himself from doing what he knows is wrong. Can has begun to internalize what is right and wrong;

Young children cannot grow up to be socially compliant and emotionally healthy people without the help of their parents in limiting their negative emotions and finding different ways to free them. Young children who are not yet able to speak should turn their impulses such as hitting and biting into alternative activities that will not harm others - such as hitting the toy hammer-nail instead of hitting the baby or biting his gear instead of biting his friend.

As the child's verbal skills develop, the parent's expectation of socially appropriate behavior from the child may increase. The child can now be expected to express his emotions in words rather than in brute force. If the child continues brute force instead of speaking, the parent should express his objection clearly. Even in children with verbal skills, active intervention by the parent may be necessary to reduce misbehavior - such as when the parent stops kicking with a clear “no ken when trying to kick because he is angry.